TroyKing

TroyKing (not his real name) has been in our lives for quite some time now. I know right now, I am not so 'the best' one in his life because I literally drove his behind home out of anger and unwilling to deal with him, a couple of years ago. Five years was enough to last a lifetime, but really.. I think patience and understanding could have really been the great antidote for the tensions.

So, yep I lost that 'bond' we had, and he knows I will gladly show him the door if I don't like what he's doing. He has been very obedient, and respectful. I'm not pressuring him, he just gives how he would like to recieve. Like the Bible says about do unto others, how..umm ummm u know.

I treat him with respect and let him live out how he knows. I know teenagers need to find themselves through anything. Although there are certain things I disagree, I drop little hints about something he might not have thought of. We share stories, but the stories I tell has moral issues so he sees (hears) where I'm getting at.

I know, I am 'mothering' him, and giving him a sense of stability, but also.. just to be like a "keynote" I tell him, I'm not the one to make choices for him. We can tell him what the right choice might be, but he needs to decide. We smile, and send words of nurturing. I don't know how to describe this, but we really want him to do right for himself, knowing we love him. HE KNOWS, and he knows we will do what we can to help him.

Right now, he has pillows all over him sleeping. I woke up around three and he was still goofing around on his computer with red droopy eyes.. His girl friend in Honolulu has been emailing him, and will talk to her on the cell.. So, I imagine that's where the time was being spent.

Yesterday, I thought about what's he's doing for his future when I was interrupted by his RARGHHHH!! When he got in the car, I knew right away he had so much to say.. His eyes were about to pop out from him not moving anymore.. his smile was about miles wide.. He says "Thanks! That was really cool!!" And taaa daaa... he showed me pictures of every ride he went on.. and described the effects. It was awesum, you know I was laughing and smiling everything he had to share. I looked at his pictures.. I was into what he was saying, then reality kicked in..